These days, there’s more than just one way to date and maintain one’s love life. Committed, monogamous relationships are beautiful things, but there are many reasons why a particular sugar baby might prefer a more casual approach to things.
Some sugar babies simply want to make the most of their lives while they’re still young and are in no real hurry to settle down for reasons of their own. Others are simply not wired for monogamy and see dating multiple people as an indefinite life choice. There are also those who are too busy for a committed relationship but still crave companionship, and casual dating can provide that.
Ultimately, there’s no wrong way for a sugar baby to manage her love life. But if you prefer to play the field, date casually, or maintain multiple sugardaddies at one time, it’s essential to do so ethically. Here are some tips for doing precisely that.
Do it for the right reasons
While it’s true that there’s no wrong way to approach sugar dating and relationships, there are definitely good reasons and bad reasons to opt for casual dating over the alternatives. For example, this isn’t something anyone should do because they’re into the ego boost that comes with being desperately wanted by multiple sugar daddies.
Do it because it feels right to you, fits your lifestyle, and is in line with your core values. And choose partners who are just as into casual dating as you are instead of playing people you know are hoping for something more.
Be honest about your intentions
So many casual daters adopt a “don’t ask, don’t tell” approach to dating around, thinking that all’s fair until there’s a definitive label on a relationship. Ethical sugar babies don’t do this. They know that if they fail to let someone they’re seeing know they’re also seeing other people, they’re simply not being honest.
As any long-time sugar baby can tell you, honesty is always the best policy when it comes to how you manage your sugar daddy relationships. Casual dating is a socially acceptable option these days, and there are plenty of people out there who are open to it. That said, there’s really no reason to lie or otherwise be unclear about your intentions.
Don’t overfill your roster
Every sugar baby needs to know her limits regarding the number of connections she can handle at one time. And keep in mind that this number can vary drastically from person to person. Sure, your best friend may somehow be happily maintaining four separate relationships, but you might be better suited to just two.
So don’t spread yourself too thin. Be respectful of the sugar daddies you date, and make sure you’re able to be fair to each of them. As tempting as it might be to explore every promising possibility, it’s usually better to take a “less is more” approach, especially in the beginning.
Always prioritize safety
While there’s nothing ethically wrong with dating multiple sugar daddies, so long as everyone involved knows the shot, there are still certain things you’ll want to do differently. Safe sex is one of the most important of those, as no one wants to deal with an unintended pregnancy or a nasty STI.
Definitely make sure you have your birth control method of choice squared away, but use condoms religiously, as well. Safe sex is essential anyway. But the more people you date (and the more people they might be dating), the greater the risks of STIs and the more important it becomes to protect yourself.
Be prepared to handle feelings
If you know you’re naturally inclined to non-monogamy and casual dating, then chances are unexpected feelings aren’t too big a potential problem for you. But that hardly means they can’t happen, so it’s a good idea to have a plan for what you’ll do if they happen to you. Would you be open to changing course and exploring something different with that person, or is it preferable to sever that connection altogether?
Consider what you’ll do if one of your sugar daddies unexpectedly develops feelings for you, too. How committed are you to the idea of keeping things casual no matter what? What extenuating circumstances (if any) would change the game for you one way or the other?
Don’t tolerate any game-playing
An ethical casual dater doesn’t play games with the sugar daddies she’s seeing. But she doesn’t tolerate the possibility of anyone playing games with her, either. Always hold the sugar daddies you date to the same honest, ethical standards to which you hold yourself. Never put up with dishonesty or game-playing.
At the end of the day, it’s a vast, wonderful world out there, and that world is full to the brim with incredible people who’ll treat you with the respect and care you deserve. Be one of those people yourself, and settle for nothing less in return.